Being honest with your partner about satin
Posted: Sun Mar 03, 2019 7:22 pm
My wife and I recently had a very matter-of-fact conversation about my love of satin. I think it's fair to say that most of us here have at one time or another had satin become a point of contention between us and our significant others.
Within my relationship satin has been close to actually splitting us up after she found a hard-drive a number of years ago with lots of satin porn on it. I agreed to delete all of it, and also got rid of a large portion of my satin nighties. Of course, as I'm sure we've all found when trying to abstain from any satin-related activities, it doesn't last for long. I found myself looking at satin porn at any opportunity when I was on my own. I bought new nighties on ebay and got them delivered to neighbours, telling them it was a surprise present for her, then hiding them away.
Eventually, she found out and wasn't impressed. I told at the time that my satin fetish was a part of me and wasn't going to go away. It took some time but she begrudgingly accepted this, and over the last few years it has slowly worked its way back into our bedroom. However, I felt that she never really enjoyed it when I suggested her wearing a satin nightie when we had sex.
At Christmas, I sat down with her and we had a long conversation about it. She admitted that whilst she did find the feeling of sliding satin over her skin enjoyable, she certainly didn't get the same sexual pleasure that I did. She told me that she resented satin, thinking that I was more attracted to it than I was to her, and was jealous, especially given the amount of porn I'd previously had and had watched.If I'm being honest I had never considered how my fetish was affecting her. I appologised to her for being selfish, but reiterated that it was something that has been a part of me since before puberty, and was very unlikely to go away. She agreed to work with my on it, and I agreed to try and help her understand how and why I enjoyed it.
We went on a huge shopping spree in the new year, and bought a huge amount of satin. Nighties, robes, blouses, tops, dresses. Where satin was concerned previously in our sex life, it has been limited to her wearing a satin nightie, and sometimes me, but now we've been experimenting a lot more.
One weekend when our son was staying at his friend's house, we spent an entire evening using all of the new satin items. I dressed her in satin, and spent hours sliding various nighties over her body, teasing her nipples, her thighs, stomach. I went down on her through a pair of purple PJ pants, and gave her the biggest orgasm she'd ever had.
Since then, our sex life is more active than ever before, and best of all, every time she wears and uses satin to pleasure us both.
My advice to you all with partners who may not "get" our fetish, be honest with them! Try to help them understand, and most of all try to understand it from their perspective as well! It's certainly worked for me!
Within my relationship satin has been close to actually splitting us up after she found a hard-drive a number of years ago with lots of satin porn on it. I agreed to delete all of it, and also got rid of a large portion of my satin nighties. Of course, as I'm sure we've all found when trying to abstain from any satin-related activities, it doesn't last for long. I found myself looking at satin porn at any opportunity when I was on my own. I bought new nighties on ebay and got them delivered to neighbours, telling them it was a surprise present for her, then hiding them away.
Eventually, she found out and wasn't impressed. I told at the time that my satin fetish was a part of me and wasn't going to go away. It took some time but she begrudgingly accepted this, and over the last few years it has slowly worked its way back into our bedroom. However, I felt that she never really enjoyed it when I suggested her wearing a satin nightie when we had sex.
At Christmas, I sat down with her and we had a long conversation about it. She admitted that whilst she did find the feeling of sliding satin over her skin enjoyable, she certainly didn't get the same sexual pleasure that I did. She told me that she resented satin, thinking that I was more attracted to it than I was to her, and was jealous, especially given the amount of porn I'd previously had and had watched.If I'm being honest I had never considered how my fetish was affecting her. I appologised to her for being selfish, but reiterated that it was something that has been a part of me since before puberty, and was very unlikely to go away. She agreed to work with my on it, and I agreed to try and help her understand how and why I enjoyed it.
We went on a huge shopping spree in the new year, and bought a huge amount of satin. Nighties, robes, blouses, tops, dresses. Where satin was concerned previously in our sex life, it has been limited to her wearing a satin nightie, and sometimes me, but now we've been experimenting a lot more.
One weekend when our son was staying at his friend's house, we spent an entire evening using all of the new satin items. I dressed her in satin, and spent hours sliding various nighties over her body, teasing her nipples, her thighs, stomach. I went down on her through a pair of purple PJ pants, and gave her the biggest orgasm she'd ever had.
Since then, our sex life is more active than ever before, and best of all, every time she wears and uses satin to pleasure us both.
My advice to you all with partners who may not "get" our fetish, be honest with them! Try to help them understand, and most of all try to understand it from their perspective as well! It's certainly worked for me!