My wife asked me what would we do with all my satin if I or we died? A friend of ours just passed away suddenly. We are in shock and he passed with no symptoms or warning. We helped clear things out. Some secrets are reveiled - we all keep secrets.
That got my wife thinking. How would she, or children, our siblings deal with with my 20+ satin blouses, 30+ satin skirts, lots of dresses, lingerie, I even have seven Malaysian baju kurung outfits. All fit my 5'10" frame, not her 5'1" frame. Maybe I should leave a note - "Read this after my death..."
What would happen to your satin collection? Who will clean up after you? What will be their reaction?
What will happen to your satin collection after you die??
Re: What will happen to your satin collection after you die??
Hi . Firstly I am truly sorry to learn of the loss of your friend. I have been through this myself and fully understand how hard this is going to be for you both. At 70 l realised the necessity of organising my own will and funeral arrangements and my large satin collection. Vast majority of my gowns are from the 1940s and 1990s which all of the best have been boxed up and labelled for a local hospis which I have supported for many years. The rest apart from the ones I have fun with are bagged up for the recycling centre. I would have liked to have sold them to others but all the effort it takes is too much. Hopefully I have quite a few years left but if not then most of people I know will be unaware of my secret love and life
Re: What will happen to your satin collection after you die??
A very good question...
My wife and I have a large collection of vintage satin/taffeta ballgowns, dresses, blouses, skirts and lingerie between us, mine being the far greater proportion as the fetishes are all mine although my wife willingly accepts them and indulges me in my "interests".
As we approach that hopefully still distant but inevitable day or accident, my wife has raised your exact point. We are 69 and 71 (that looks really old when written down) and still fit and healthy but the question is becoming more relevant by the day. If I died tomorrow, she would be left to clear out all of my "stuff", which would be a huge, potentially embarrassing task that she doesn't really want to take on. If both of us died, then it would be left to our (adult) children to clear our house and what would they then think of us and our secrets? For starters, I'm one size larger than my wife and my daughter knows her size full well, so the possibility of all of the size 14's being my wife's belongings won't wash... and then there's the size 9 heels! Selfishly, we would be long past worrying about it but my "kid's" memories and opinions of us may (or may not if they already suspect...) be tarnished by the discovery and that is important to us.
However reluctant I am, I have to reduce my much prized collection to a handful of favourites. My token effort so far has been to put one or two of my so-so items and purchasing mistakes in charity bags. I could sell them online but I just can't be bothered with all the faff. There's still a long way to go.
Your suggestion of "Read this after my death" taped to the inside of the wardrobe door may also be worth considering...
My wife and I have a large collection of vintage satin/taffeta ballgowns, dresses, blouses, skirts and lingerie between us, mine being the far greater proportion as the fetishes are all mine although my wife willingly accepts them and indulges me in my "interests".
As we approach that hopefully still distant but inevitable day or accident, my wife has raised your exact point. We are 69 and 71 (that looks really old when written down) and still fit and healthy but the question is becoming more relevant by the day. If I died tomorrow, she would be left to clear out all of my "stuff", which would be a huge, potentially embarrassing task that she doesn't really want to take on. If both of us died, then it would be left to our (adult) children to clear our house and what would they then think of us and our secrets? For starters, I'm one size larger than my wife and my daughter knows her size full well, so the possibility of all of the size 14's being my wife's belongings won't wash... and then there's the size 9 heels! Selfishly, we would be long past worrying about it but my "kid's" memories and opinions of us may (or may not if they already suspect...) be tarnished by the discovery and that is important to us.
However reluctant I am, I have to reduce my much prized collection to a handful of favourites. My token effort so far has been to put one or two of my so-so items and purchasing mistakes in charity bags. I could sell them online but I just can't be bothered with all the faff. There's still a long way to go.
Your suggestion of "Read this after my death" taped to the inside of the wardrobe door may also be worth considering...
Re: What will happen to your satin collection after you die??
life is short sir 
sorry 4 the loss
4 now i slowing down and my next buy probably in 2026 while disposing some away (mostly more than 10 years old worn out)
sorry 4 the loss 4 now i slowing down and my next buy probably in 2026 while disposing some away (mostly more than 10 years old worn out)